From my own life experiences as well as my work, I’ve learned how most of us spend a lot of our time and energy on unjustified worry, shame and self-criticism. I’ve found that usually the most competent and seemingly confident people set themselves unrealistic goals and then berate themselves for not achieving these. I believe that therapy can give people the opportunity to develop a better understanding of these processes and learn how to view themselves and their experiences in a kinder and more helpful way.
The therapeutic relationship is central to successful treatment and this is always my main focus. When I have had therapy, the most important thing to me was that I felt I could open up and be real with my therapist, without the fear of being judged. As a result, this is always at the forefront for me as a therapist.
The main psychological approach I use is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT). However, I am experienced in a number of approaches which I weave in based on the needs of the client. These include; Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), mindfulness, Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
I qualified as a Counselling Psychologist nearly 15 years ago. I’ve primarily worked with people who have had very difficult and traumatic life experiences and are in a lot of emotional pain. Being able to help them to reduce their pain and have happier and more fulfilling lives has kept me motivated and passionate about being a therapist.
I grew up in Ireland but moved to England as an adult. I am very active and love most sports. I started windsurfing a few years ago which I really enjoy, although still have a lot to learn!
More recently, I have become a foster carer. This has been incredibly challenging but amazing and has really helped me to better understand and relate to young people as well as some of the challenges for parents.
I had a course of CBT Counselling with The Harley Psychology & Therapy Group (Richmond) and although it didn’t provide me with the quick fix miracle solution I was hoping for, it has made my problems feel more manageable.