Do you lack belief in your personal value/worth?
Are you very critical of yourself?
Do you have a low opinion of yourself?
Do you compare yourself negatively with others?
Do you blame yourself when something goes wrong and attribute good fortune to external influences (i.e. not to yourself)?
Do you expect others to dislike and criticise you?
Do you hear criticism from others when this is not the message that is being conveyed?
Are you drawn to people who mistreat you?
Do you set very high standards for yourself to try and improve how you feel about yourself?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions you may benefit from our counselling services to help you overcome your low self esteem issues.
Warning Signs of Low Self Esteem
The first step will be to discuss with one of our Therapists the beliefs that you hold about yourself, how these affect how you feel and the choices that you make. Your Psychologist may also ask you about your relationships as we tend to be drawn to people who treat us like we treat ourselves.
Once your Therapist has a clear idea of your self-esteem and its impact on your life they will teach you techniques to reduce self-criticism and doubt and help you learn to build a more accepting, positive and nurturing attitude towards yourself.
In parallel to this your Therapist will help you to deal with any feelings of anxiety, anger or depression associated with your low self-esteem.
You will then work with your Therapist to reconstruct your confidence and begin tackling issues that you have previously avoided due to expectations of failure.
Finally, your Therapist will help you to understand the origins of your low self-esteem, resolve negative feelings about these and move forwards from these with acceptance, resulting in a more healthy attitude.
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The origins of low self-esteem lie in childhood where one or more of the following experiences lead to beliefs of worthlessness or defectiveness:
Once established (usually in the first 5 -10 years of life) beliefs about worthlessness or defectiveness then affect how subsequent experiences are processed. Evidence that supports a belief in low self-worth/value is quickly processed and held at the forefront of the mind so that it can be reviewed and revisited on a regular basis further depreciating a person sense of their own value. Evidence that contradicts these beliefs and has the power to reverse self-doubt is ignored or dismissed as an exception ensuring that low self-esteem is maintained.