In this blog I am going to explain 5 steps to help you to deal with your anger. Anger is an unpleasant emotion to experience and to be on the receiving end of. It can damage relationships and reputations and leave all involved feeling anxious and depressed and angry. However, anger serves an important function, it alerts us to mistreatment and injustice so in this sense it is vital to our survival. This means our aim cannot be to get rid of anger, instead we must try to understand, control […]...
Anger serves an important function, we know this because we all feel it, suggesting that we have evolved to feel it. Anger alerts us to mistreatment of others but principally ourselves, it signal to us when our needs are not being met, needs that have to be met to ensure our physical and psychological well being. Without anger our species would not have been so successful or have survived so long. However, sometimes we feel angry in the absence of mistreatment, when our needs are not being neglected. Frequently anger […]...
The first step in dealing with Anger is to understand what is causing it. There are three main reasons that we feel anger and each indicates a different course of action. 1. Anger because your needs aren’t being met In its purest form anger is a response to unmet needs; we may feel angry because we are being treated badly for example. In this instance anger is an adaptive response to our environment; it is alerting us to a problem that we need to resolve. The important thing here is […]...
Dear Dr Gray, I seem to feel angry all of the time and I am wondering if I need some kind of therapy or maybe some anger management. Most of the time I can keep a lid on it but from time to time (and this is starting to happen more often) I completely lose it, sometimes over really little things. I am worried because the problem is getting worse not better. Jonathon (Clapham, London) Dr Gray Replies…….. Dear Jonathon, Anger is the emotion that we fear most and as […]...
